Center your Mind

Hi all, I know I said I would be blogging alot more, but I haven't lived up to that excpectation.


As unbelievable as it sounds, school is now ending it's first week and already I am swamped with school work and guild activities.

Its hectic and I don't feel like there are enough hours in the day, but I love it...stress is something I love to conquer and nothing in this world quite feels like the rush you get from knowing you achieved what you set out to do.

As much as I love it tho, there are times when I can't focus as all the work seems to be as important as the thing I started to work on...but I employ the 'big picture method.'

Ween I find that I can't focus, I take a break, take a couple deep breathes and then I reevaluate what I'm doing and it helps to center the mind, while placing things in perspective.

So for all of you out there, if you feel the pressure hitting you, take a break, take a breathe and center your mind.

Here's to positive people!

A lil reminder

SO its back to school YAY its a bittersweet thing for me as I'm sure it is for many people.

Leaving all the comforts of home (mom's cooking) to now fend for myself. Sigh...all part of growing up I guess.

This year, the sweet part is that it's my FINAL year and that alone is cause for celebration!

The bitter part is that I have the headache of registering for classes (and with the way the system my college operates I'll have an easier time jumping to the moon than getting it sorted.

All I can say to students out there is have patience, everything will eventually be sorted out. And I mean everything...too often I find that people allow the pressure to build up and I mysekf am very guilty of this. Its hard sometimes to just step back take a deep breathe and steady yourself. Everything feels like its just as important as the thing that comes before it.

However, as I learned this summer, taking a step back and looking at the overall picture helps to place everythingin perspective, you can pinpoint exatly what is important from what isn't.

So when you are in the middle of a deep or mild panic, try to stop take a deep breath and before you know it things will seem alittle more clear.

Slowing down your mind gets rid of the rushed feeling and you ultimately start to feel better.

Try it today if you feel pressured.

Here's too positive people!

Goal checklist-My awesome summer

Well I said I was going to do a post about my goals for the summer and I guess this is as good a post as any.

So first off what were my goals?

1. Spend a ton of time with Handsome
2. Find a summer job
3. Work with my CHLP club
4. Connect with old friends
5. Attend Kadooment Day and Bridgetown Market
6. Hopefully attend CHLP Youth Vibes in St. Kitts

Did I achieve any of these..well lets see...

1. Spend a ton of time with Handsome- I sure did and for 99.99% of the time it was fantastic! The other 0.01
was time we had our tiny disagreements. WHat I love most about my Handsome is that even when we get so mad offset at each other we never go to bed offset...even if we do we wake up and make sure that the other wakes up to hear we love each other.

2.Find a summer job-did not succeed in this one but I don't mind, it was disappointing sure, but was expected so my hopes were never high on that front to begin with and it opened a chance for me to do other things this summer. (will explain)

3. Work with my CHLP club-CHLP stands for Caribbean Healthy Lifestyle Program, its a youth club that teaches youth life skills and trains them so they are able to pass it onto other youth and Barbados has one branch of it in the region. This summer we did a lot of work with five different camps. Though its volunteer work and I actually lost money, it was actually very enriching to help mold young minds.I was also able to help coordinate a lifeskills workshop for the youth has well as a social event for the club.

4. Connect with old friends- This was achieved...to an extent. So many of my friends have gone so far on their own path, that even tho we all used to 'roll deep' its hard to find them. However, I was able to see some of them, share laughs and I'm actually proud that I made time to do this. I personally think life is a place for friends...takes some of the pressure off sometimes.

5. Attend Kadooment Day and Bridgetown Market- Did not get to Kadooment, which is our big jump up day (carnival)  it was raining so hard down my side that I didn't bother, but I caught some of it on tv. I did get to bridgetown market and this year it was a family affair. Mom, dad, nephew and niece all bundled into a car and took that stroll along the mile long street fair. It was nice, then I ended it with my tradition of sitting in Handsome's gallery with friends until an ungodly hour in the morning...it was great.

6. Hopefully attend CHLP Youth Vibes 5 in St. Kitts-(I actually knocked off quite a few goals with this) You know what CHLP is, but youth vibes is the annual REGIONAL conference that is held by a different club in a different country each year. I had no plans on going, just really big dreams since on my student budget of no money, and my having no job, with gave me a startling (-^) income of no money, I was beyond broke to find airfare and accommodation money. Then God came through for me and I was fully SPONSORED to attend Youth Vibes 5 in the sweet, sweet sugar city of St. Kitts.
   I not only attended, but I attended as a facilitator this year and that has been one of my goals since I entered CHLP way back in 2005. (yay)
   While I was their I made a ton of new friends, reconnected with old friends from previous youth vibes that live all over the Caribbean.
   To add icing on the cake, I WON THE INTEGRITY AWARD. And almost like this wasn't enough, this year it was sponsored by a major telecommunications giant within the caribbean, so not only did I win an award, I also won a BLACKBERRY CURVE. Which coincidentally, was on my goal list to try and attain this year.

So by attending youth vibes I actually achieved not one but 4  FOUR of my goals.

I really feel like I accomplished much this summer and its an awesome feeling. I hope many of you attained some goal you wanted, feel free to share it in the comment box.

Now its off to pack (been trying to pack for two weeks and still haven't finished and I leave tomorrow...sigh)

So here's to positive people!

I'm Back (vacation is over and its time to get back)

Well its been four months since my last post and for all of you who don't remember allow me to remind you why.

I'm a 20 yr old girl from the beautiful island of Barbados who studies in Jamaica and the four months of absence on the blog stems from the fact that I've been home on vacation and HAVE ENJOYED EVERY PRECIOUS MOMENT OF IT! (lol)

Alot has happened this summer and I have achieved so much of my goals (that will come in a later post) and more importantly than that I spent alot of time with my soulmate, who from henceforth should further mention of him be done, shall be called Handsome! (so it shall be hehehehe)

Will miss him so much over the next few months but hopefully either these months will fly or we will both be occupied so it doesn't seem so long lol.

I hope everyone has done atleast 2-5 things on their summer list and even better than that I hope you have all enjoyed your summer period.

Looking forward to bringing some sort of reading entertainment to you, think my next post will be about the direction of this blog.

Until then I bid you adieu and in the eternal language of anyone who has ever glazed at the stars...Live long and prosper!


***Here's to Happy people****

Show and Tell-Appreciation

So..its been the best day ever!

It's been tough being back home, having all my plans fall through, in particular the ones pertaining to a job/internship (and it gets harder to find one with each passing day since I go back to Jamaica in September and no one wants to hire a gal who's bouncing in a few months...oh well-keep you posted on that), still haven't seen people that I should get up and see (or should come see me)...that said...TODAY, MAY 20TH WAS THE BESTEST DAY EVER!!!!!

Why...simply because I spent it with Handsome.

We rented movies and spent the day in bed just watching them, went for a walk ( don't mind it was to collect my niece from daycare, was still fun) and then finished the rest of the movies...it was perfect.

Its only when he was leaving that my sister reminded us of the countdown that should have the world in its grip...you know...the one that is counting down to the end of the world...which is supposedly tomorrow.
Without realizing it, I had spent the day doing what I would want to do if it really was my last day on earth.

I don't know about other people but when you suddenly stop and think 'whoa this could be my last day on earth' and you don't regret anything you have done or the person you do it with...you may very well have found the "love of your life"

If you have found someone that you can spend the day with and be perfectly content and you can sense that the person you are with feels the same way then hold on to that person.

I love my Handsome, not sure how it happened or why the Lord saw fit to bless me with him in my lifetime but He did so I wont complain.

I have a task for you out there on the world wide web....show or do something just to let your loved one know that you appreciate their presence in your life, take in their reaction and let me know how you felt seeing it happen, doesn't have to be a big thing, just a token to let them know your feelings...people forget sometimes.

Here's to positive people!

P.s. not my normal post but felt it was needed-positive living comes mainly from within but you also need love, if you need it you can bet that your significant other needs it as well- healthy relationships are the supporting columns to a healthy you.

The Red Riding Hood Saga-Job hunting

So I who knew that going back to Jamaica in four months time was going to be a hindrance to finding a job for the summer...I didn't expect it to be such the hassle.

I decided  that the quickest way for me to find a job, as I desperately don't want to go back to the job I had before I left for school ( it was one of those dead end jobs that you can literally see your soul being sucked out of you - plus the situation in that workplace was no where near satisfactory for the employees), was to sign on with an employment agency.

After all what better way to find a job than to have people who make a living looking for jobs help you?

Welcome to Skye Theater- playing to night the family classic- Red Riding Hood...

So as the story goes Red Riding Hood (me) sets off to find Grandma's House (job) along the way she sees the woodsman (employment agency) who points here in the right direction...sadly he neglects to issue any warning about the Big Bad Wolf ( my four month expiry date). Lil Red Riding Hood sets on her merry way laughing and singing and finally finds Grandma's House after following the Woodsman's directions.

'Oh Grandma (potential employer) what a great opportunity you are offering' says Red Riding Hood

'All the better for you my dear' Says Grandma

'Well Grandma i'll stay and work for you until September where I have to fly off to a foreign land to study up on how better to service you" Says Red Riding Hood

'Oh no!, you can't do that I need someone who will work for me long term not just until the Big Bad Wolf comes' Says Grandma.

And well...you can guess how that story ended.

 Grandma says leave your application, and secretly you feel her plotting to stay far away from the Big Bad Wolf....

Well Red Riding Hood continues her quest for a job before she succumbs and runs back home (or in the real life version of this story ...the soul sucking job)

Through all this though I falter and lose the positive outlook sometimes, I feel everything will work out and if you ever find your self in a position where the world seems stacked against you, find the person you can confide in (for me its my Handsome) vent it out and then go smiling back into the world.

Here's to positive people!

Dilemma-Knowingly take a job I hate cuz the Money's good?

It's so good to be home yay! Spending time with my family and Handsome so far is proving to be fun.

That said however, I can only be a bum for so long and with a bank account which has a needle fast approaching empty, the next order of business is to find a job. I sent out applications before I left Jamaica via email and for those who did reply the result was negative...oh well.

 After that I tried to get the school to help me out with an internship, a stipend is better than no money at all. And I was led, to an extent, to believe that this would be forth coming, to find out later that they want me to do my internship instead in december(internship is a requirement for my course) so that ship set sail without me on it.

Coming back, my sister, who works in a store at the airport let me in on a job opportunity. This is the dilemma. This job pays exceedingly well, so much so that even people who are on the airport staff already are applying for the position, changing their departments because of the pay. Its about close to $2000 a month. Here's the catch, its the cleaning staff.

So while the money looks good, cleaning toilets after strangers is very offsetting for me...I'm not germaphobic but germs do cause me concern....to be honest, if it where a cleaning job for a private home I won't mind but its the thought of countless strangers and if any of you have been in a public restroom, I'm sure at some point you have said 'I do not want to be the one who has to clean that up!'

I mean I could really use a job bringing in that sort of cash...legally (lol) but money isnt everything...and theres still some time to find other options, not that there is a guarantee that I get the job....

Apply for a job I know I will hate, just for the money?

What do you think, would you?

Here's to positive people!

Returning to Beautiful Barbados

Home is where the heart is!!! And I'm on my way back to it!

Was a great year schoolwise...for the most part. Awesome learning experience being in Jamaica and being on my own. For those of you who pick up your lives and move to different countries or states, I applaud you, it isn't something to be taken lightly, especially if you have close family ties. Homesickness can be a silent killer.

For this post all I have to say really is HOME HERE I COME! I've missed my family and Handsome(my future hubby) and I can't wait to get some well deserved R&R before school begins again.

So to all, enjoy the time you have available with the people you love, you only realize how much they impact your life when they aren't playing a vital role anymore.

Here's to positive people!

Ageless Truths

I am a die hard Law and order Criminal intent and SVU fan, if theres a marathon it doesnt matter if I've seen them already, I WILL see them again lol.

Recently the new Criminal Intent season has started and I realized something that says alot about our perception in today's world. Here's an interesting fact, in the new season Detective Goren is riddled with gray hair and his partner Eames has apparently discovered the fountain of youth with her perpetually dark blonde hair.

And this happens in many pictures, men with gray hair, seen as a sign as wisdom...woman with gray hair...shes losing her touch on reality.  (I'm not saying my observations are correct but you get were I'm going with this.)

Ageing is something to be embraced by all genders, not to be covered up with the modern day technology of plastic surgery and hair dye. Gray hair says, I've been there, learnt what I needed to know and can move to other things.

I write this post because I, although I have nothing against plastic surgery, make up and the like, I believe they have a place in society and uses, but relying on these things to make you beautiful is not the way to go, ageing is not a disease, to be prescribed cosmetic surgery to fix, it should be embraced and revered.

Hope that when I get mature, I can tell a story for every gray hair in my head. :-)

Here's to positive people.

Say this Say That

Today's post, will be short and simple and is all about the sayings in life that crop up from time to time, just a reminder to try looking on the bright side of things and also to keep yourself focused.
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Life hands you lemons make lemonade...this saying is so popular, it's been revamped, to include other analogies all more or less meaning make the best of whatever situation you are in.

It's never easy, in fact finding your glimmer of hope in some situations is like being four and trying to find Waldo, on those brightly coloured pages...distractions are going to be there, when you think you've found it...turns out its something else.

In life you make a goal or focus on a path and the trekking gets hard and then a shortcut pops up that shines enticingly and another saying 'all that glitters isn't gold' comes to mind. This is to remind you that taking a shortcut wont always be the easy road in the long run.

In addition, the saying the grass is always greener on the other side, this saying goes two ways, it can either be positive meaning you get off the path you are on to explore new areas or it can lead you to yet another saying which is looks can be decieving' .... the grass may be greener because that persons water bill is higher....in other words there are consequences for all actions.

The list of sayings can go on, some see them as cliche, and they are...only because they can apply to so many situations, if you want a small pick me up.

What's your favorite saying?

Here's to positive people!

Adjustments and Adventures

So things are looking up, one more exam to go yay! I can say work this semester has been pressure but I have enjoyed almost all the moments of being a University student and as far as first years go, it has been fun.

Biggest thing of all about the first year of university is adjusting to life on your own. I won't say I was cuddled at home, chores and rules played a major role in my life but atleast on the meal front my mom and dad had that covered, and covered excellently I might add :> excellent cooks the both of them and I'm not just saying that, there are others who bare witness to that fact.

It was also the adjusting to life on hall, it can be very exciting, the parties, the comraderie,hanging out and making new friends and all that but it also has some restrictions in that your presence is required at all meetings, people expect you to lead the way by appearing at events and stuff along those lines.

And of course the big one, living with atleast fifty other people in one house, who don't always know how to clean up after themselves in a kitchen. For the first semester I lived off of microwave food because I can't handle cooking in a kitchen where other people mess it up and I'm not taking a plate here or a cup there, I mean a full out mess...EWWWW

Its really good that I had this experience though. I know I can be independent,  Being a twin it was important for me to know this, I haven't been away from my sister for more than a week, before this experience and we still talk regularly, she is still my bestest friend in the whole world. And I also know that I am able to ask for help should I need it.

Well all I can say is, for those who haven't experienced life on your own, take a vacation by yourself for about two weeks, most people leave home to move in directly with a boyfriend or girlfriend but you need the time alone to see how you manage it, and then you can live with someone else easier.

So take a risk in your life at some point, shake up your routine, dye your hair, go meet someone new if you can, just do something adventurous and life your life for one moment and shake it up . To that note, what is the most adventurous thing you have done for the betterment of yourself?

Here's to positive people.

Ups...And Sadly, Downs

I know..its been a while since I've been here so let me just say Happy Easter season to those who acknowledge it and if you don't...hope you had an awesome couple of weeks.

So last time I posted I was missing home...guess what..I still am but not for long yay! Exams begin tomorrow and after that I'm just a bus and plane away from landing in mostly sunny, sometimes rainy Barbados! WHOOHOO!

However, despite my joy this post is about handling disappointments, the post before my last, Time, Time,Time, spoke about the how stressfully filled my time was, running all over the place etc etc. Most of the hard work came from organizing a trip for my classmates to Barbados...I spent all semester trying to organize events and people from here in Jamaica, then running all around Montego Bay, meeting with people and like I said generally stressing myself ( not that I didn't like it, I love being super busy, pushes me to achieve) but what I absolutely can't stand, is wasted time.

So after all of that, the classmates, let me stress that again, THE CLASSMATES AND NOT ME!, did what I never even considered doing...and that is CANCEL THE TRIP.

Sigh, I have never been so disappointed in my life. *moment of silence*

Alas, to this day I am still not clear as to why they did it...but its done.

So how did one handle such a situation of months worth of hard work down the drain...i counted to ten, said a prayer, complained to the persons closest to me and walked away...

Sounds so simple...in fact in my head I invented the dictionary of revolutionary curse words to express what I wanted to say to the class...

Let me back track, the reason I got so upset..I did all the work up to three weeks ago, which means I have been working on it from January, the class started to become involve three weeks ago and then started giving input on things to change etc etc...so basically things where on track....and the tutor was like "Skye you can't do it all yourself" which lead to me taking suggestions and stuff started to go downhill...mainly because plans where in motion then changed.

I'm not saying how I handled my disapointment will work for you, infact, that approach rarely works for me, I usually tell the person they wasted my time..but walking away from it all and complaining about it made it easier to focus on all the other things I had going on... and while I may not like it I will have to work with them again so in the back of my head alienating them did not seem like the best course of action for future contact.

So in short, when you are disappointed asset the situation, wont be easy but try, and handle it in the least harmful way to you first and by extension, the least harmful  way to maintaining the kind of relatioinship you want to have with the person or persons who disappointed you.

And always find some way to vent it out...bottling things inside you makes for a big explosion later in your future.

By the way, how do you handle the big disappointments in your life?

Here's to positive people.

Missing home(a break from the regular posting)

Yay yay yay! The semester is winding down, I went out today and bought my ticket for the four hour long drive from Montego Bay to Kingston so that I can take a three hour flight home at the end of this month...can I get a HALLELUJAH!

I am not saying I don't like Jamaica...it's easy to get that impression especially since I'm the only person to book a ticket for the bus(three weeks in advance) or so the sales person told me...I do like the country and for the most part it's people...but there is NO place like home..and I do mean NO place.

Jamaica is a country that is rich in culture and being here experiencing first hand the way of life, it is ok but with hickups like any country. I enjoy the time I spend here...that doesn't mean I don't miss the 'Gem of the Caribbean.'

Barbados is tiny...only 166sq miles...doesn't take four hours to get anywhere (lol) and it is one of the most relaxing places I know. And I'm not just saying this, I've traveled extensively through out the Caribean, I've been to St. Lucia, Guyana, Dominica, Trinidad, St. Kitts, St. Vincent and of course Jamaica, and there is always a "Caribbean Vibe of friendliness and togetherness" wherever I go, and not being biased, but Barbados always gives a little more 'oomph'... a feeling that everyday should be spent sitting with friends and family just hanging.

Its a tourist island, it is our biggest revenue, but as a tourist you never feel it, we as a people love to make everyone feel at home. Sure people will try to put on an accent and encourage you to spend your vacation money pampering yourself with things from the island, but don't think that's all the country is about, just that the people have to eat too.

 Oh how I miss it so (in case no one caught on yet :->)

Now, I can't write about Barbados and not address all that is happening between my home and the place in which I reside in now, the cases of abuse by immigration officers(if you haven't read the stories click here and here, this will give a look at the situation from the Barbadian and Jamaican media perspectives).

I have no idea what is true or not, I AM NOT PICKING SIDES .


I will say this, DO NOT BLAME THE ACTIONS OF A FEW ON AN ENTIRE COUNTRY.

It is ridiculous the things people are saying, the facebook pages that are created. Living in Jamaica, was/isn't a bad experience but people are threatening to make it so, getting heated whenever the topic is raise and I almost get the sense that I shouldn't say I'm from Barbados, even if I've done nothing wrong.

I implore people not to let stupidity breed stupidty.

Barbados is not the hostile place that people make it out to be, the bad that is being highlighted is not the overall feel of the country, we are a friendly people and if you have not experienced it then wait until you do before you pass judgement.

Barbados, my home, I miss ya!

Time...Time..Time

Hi guys, it has been one wicked last couple of days.

I am one of those people who get off on leading hectic lives. I love to complain to close ones about how my workload is killing me and secretly I get a thrill from knowing that no matter what I have on my plate, it's gonna get done. I'm studying at university and had some exemptions I opted to take from the mass communication degree I had from college. So, even though I'm in my first year of university, I'm doing year 2 work...as well as first year work...confusing I know..on the bring side I graduate in 2 years instead of 3...yay!

Let me break down the last couple of days, the things I have going that all have to be done by the end of the semester..which ends in 5 weeks: (imagine a tv show, with montage music playing and everything in warped speed)

School:
a communitcation auidt- group project
a community development proposal- group project
a communication plan proposal
language argument essay
revision for exams

1st year class activities- trip to Barbados (my beautiful home)
planning for raffle sale
planning for fashion show and after party
organizing all the details in Barbados from Jamaica(where I am now)

Campus activities:
Applied(and running unopposed) for the Public Relations Officer on the Campus Committees

Whew...all of this in addition to attending 5 classes between Monday to Wednesday and a 2 sometimes 4 hour class on Saturday. Different meetings, with different groups...

The trick for the millions of us out there is to manage our time, as hectic as your life becomes and as much as you feel there isn't enough time in the day, never despair, being focused and sticking to your time alloted for each item plays a big part to you not crashing under the pressure.

For the most part, I'm on top of everything. The group projects are my worst enemy when there's so much other stuff to study about because a lot of our public relation group work is dependent on the work other people do. Example: if I'm in charge of designing brochures or flyers and someone else is in charge of research, while I can do some of the research to help that person, ultimately I'm dependent on that person to get their information to me on time. Not always the case, people's time schedules don't always coincide because people may have just that one task to focus on and others have 20 that are more or less running the same time.

So my message today, is be considerate to yourself, manage your time to allow for life's obstacles and no matter how hectic life becomes it's abit easier to cope. WARNING: sleep derivation may still occur.

Here's to positive people!

Who You Be?

What I am vs. what I want to be...oh no...when did what should I be get in there?!

Sounds confusing like that but it's all about knowing yourself. The WHAT you are is easy to figure out. Look at your life. Can you describe yourself in three words...one for your work life, social life and for your relationship life? Example: mine would be 1. persevering 2. outgoing and 3. committed

From those words I know I like to get the job at hand done, hang with my friends and meet new people and I know that I want my  relationship to last.

Are these things I WANT to be(yes)...are you the person you want to be? For me, I think I'm on my way to where I want to be....I have more to achieve to get to where I want to be.

So after evaluating what you are, think of your goals. Is the path you are  on going to help you achieve those goals, to get you where you really want to be? 


Now is the tricky part...what SHOULD you be? This question has no bearing in my opinion...this question is create by people that surround you and who think they should have a say in your life. It can be parents, partners or society.

If you are poor you should be fast food employee( not knocking that profession just going on what the media portrays) if your parents have a business you should carry on the legacy...and so on and so on...

The what should I be question is one that only comes into play if you are comfortable with other people running your life, might as well be a robot.

So what are you?..what do you want to be? if you ever ask yourself what should I be, I believe the answer is "I should be what I want to be!"

It's a cycle of questions that only ends when the question what I am has the same answer as the question what I want to be.

The cycle begins again when you ask yourself 'what am I' and the answer is different to what you want to be.

It is confusing but oh so necessary. Finding yourself is crucial to you being on track to success. It also means that once you have achieved success you wont let it change you.

I think Emienm says it best 'I be what I set out to be without a doubt undoubtedly.'

Here's to positive people!

Are You Glad?

Life is so funny sometimes, things that cause you some sort of discomfort...can sometimes make you laugh. Maybe because if you don't laugh depression can visit your personal space for a while.

It is so easy to let dread take you over, if you end up in a situation you are unfamiliar with, big fights with family members or significant others or just a really bad day at the office. 

Well, I have a remedy to it, and I got it from so long ago when I read the book-was a classic- *Pollyanna* Its a story about an orphan and her adventures. In it she had a game called the 'Glad Game'

When things were at it's lowest, just fill in this blank and say 'I am glad because......' And it helps so much!

When I feel sad... I'm glad that I at sometime I will find a nice, cold soft drink because the bubbles make me smile lol. I'm glad I have people in my life who aren't as annoying as the rest of the world and I am glad that I have a teddybear named Dino who is very,very huggable. (yes I'm 20 not 02...don't ever let go of your childhood completely) :-)

Try it today, when things feel bad...just be glad.

Here's to positive people! (What are you glad about in your life?)

Let's Do the Taboo

 What are you waiting for..it's easy;people do it all the time...what's the worse that can happen.. just open up and do it...

You know..let's COMMUNICATE!

*round of applause* Don't listen to the lies..it's not easy and it's definitely not taboo.

Well, I should say communicating anything of worth, is not easy. So much comes into play..such as your level of comfort with the topic or person you will be communicating with, reasons for wanting or more importantly needing to communicate and or your ability to make yourself clear.

So your comfort... if you are a shy person, talking to your significant other (S.O) about sex, money, our family plans (kids etc) is not an easy conversation to have, but those are three major causes for failing relationships. Either someone isn't receiving their sexual satisfaction or you are not both on the same page in that department, one person has bad judgement with money or you may want children and your S.O doesn't or you may have children already and at logger heads about how to raise them.

If you don't become comfortable, things will never be said or understood and your relationship could very well be on the rocks.

Why would you need or want to communicate with other humans. In the work world and/or personal world, if you NEED to communicate its usually because some problem has arisen and nothing significant is being done to resolve it.

And finally if you talk with someone and they leave the conversation as confused as when they went in, then the message you are trying to convey, just didn't hit the mark.

Communication is such an integral part of people's lives, if you can't effectively execute communication, your world will be riddled by unnecessary problems. Might buy milk, when you were suppose to get juice, just an example of poor communication.

It can be the key to you being successful.  When people can understand your position on issues, time is reduced, instead of running around in circles, you can start working on a solution.

Listening is also a big part of the communication process. There are always atleast two sides to any issue. So, you aren't getting enough physical contact out of your relationship, say so to your partner..then don't close off, LISTEN to the reply,wait for it to be completed before making a reply and you might find solutions.

The solutions process can be tedious, but anything worth achieving should never be too easy. It takes time, when you have communicated and the other person in the conversation as well...replay the important points...its the only way to ensure you are both on the same page...some experts call it...*drumroll* FEEDBACK!

Don't be lost in a daze, it is easy to find the light, communication can be the Energizer batteries you need for the flash light..

Just as that slogan says...Communication can keep  your work and personal relationships going and going and going and....


Here's to positive people!

Just Do It

I have been writing this post since morning, took time out to watch television, do some school work, read, clean, bathe, cook, eat, talk to family and future family and finally do more work. Sad as it sounds, gave me another post to write about, so yay!

Procrastination, is the topic of the day, it's so easy for us, who are all on the path to success somehow, to be distracted by the shiny and glitzy side streets called "Easy Lane" and "Do it Soon Avenue."

I fall prey to those attractive streets often myself, nice to kick back and take a load off, nothing wrong with the R &R, but don't become so caught up in those cushy lifestyle streets, the real world isn't waiting for you will you are on vacation.

In one procrastinating session of mine, a couple of weeks ago, I heard on the Spongebob show (really good entertainment if you just want to waste time) Squidward tell Mr. Krabs "Why do today what you can do tomorrow?" And Mr. Krabs' reply to that statement was:

"What is Today but Yesterday's Tomorrow?"

Such profound words, six words which if they stood alone have no deep meaning, but placed together...they are mind blowing...

What is today but yesterday's tomorrow... no matter how long you put things off until tomorrow, eventually..they will be done on a 'today.'

I have to say, its not easy, but knowing your goals, is a serious motivator. Think of all the things that will result of you not doing an action in a timely manner. Now think of what will happen if you did it, without putting it off?

The putting it off reaps  rewards for the now, but the doing it now ..well that reaps rewards for your future. Whether it be in time, cash or something as simple as peace of mind.

So don't put off what you can do today, until tomorrow...it really just fills up your tomorrow.

Here's to positive people!

Oh No!..Don't Jump!!

Every time I give a tutor my email address, let''s say its beachfete@soso.com(which is very similar to what my email addy is), I always get some sort of heat. They always say, why do you have an email like that? You should have something that sounds more professional...

Well I say, stop judging the book by the cover. One of my many steps to attaining success, is having my goals written or posted somewhere that I am constantly reminded of them. You know, so I never lose sight. (If you haven't done it at any point in your life, try it, especially for the long term goals.)

My email address is one such thing,  it is the future name of my event coordinating company. I've known what I've wanted to do with my life since I made that email address, way back in 2003, when I was 13. I knew I wanted to do something involving the planning, promotion and execution of events, and my email address was created so that one day, in my future, that email address would be shared by other members of my very big cooperation.

Oftentimes we jump to conclusions about things, based on our perceptions to images and attitudes portrayed by people. Don't jump!

The surface of that water may be clear, but that sand could be closer than you originally thought. Nothing sinks a boat faster, than a miscalculation.

Some people not only jump without looking, they jump into a fog and never find their way out, meaning, they are so stuck in their misconception, that no light is penetrating.

My words of advice, for you to be successful, have a cautious, but OPEN mind, it can open doors that you would have closed off.

Don't always give into your first instinct about people because of the way they are dress,their speech or their email address. First impressions matter, but they are hardly always right.

Here's to positive people!

Yes, No...Maybe...

If you have a relationship and you are happy, sprinkled with a few blow ups, tempered with many disagreements but always sweeten at the end of the day with contentment..I feel your...normally I end that sentence with pain...and it still applies in this case..so I feel your pain.

I say that 'I feel your pain' mainly because to maintain a loving relationship requires hard work and a TON of compromise. If you are like me, you can be very, very and I mean very stubborn. As happy go lucky as I can be, when I get a thought in my head, I'm stubborn.

I'm also one of those blessed people to have found the one person who's annoying habits I know I can tolerate for the next hundred years or so. That isn't to say that at some points those habits don't get on my nerves, or my habits don't get on his.

The reason we are able to survive, is the tendency we have to talk things out, until we find a common ground that we can both share. And sometimes those talks can take forever, and I will shut down sometimes because the talking takes a ton of detours, that leads to even more offsetting things until that common ground is established.

So, as much as people want to say the secret to a happy life with a significant other is in saying the female is always right (which is generally true :->) the real secret is compromise.

Saying yes all the time makes you submissive, saying no all the time makes both parties upset and saying maybe means you could be happy.

Here's how to do it:

Step one: Don't just shut down and shut up- at the first sign of brewing trouble, don't put up the defenses, it really might not be as bad as you think.

Step 2: Listen- before you jump in with your two cents, think of when you are in a store..do you get change back before you have given in the money? Let the person state their position before refuting it.

Step 3: Communicate- A two way process in which both parties should have a say.

Step 4: Kiss and make up- don't leave the discussion feeling upset, get rid of it through the discussion, if you can't say 'I love you' at the end, then keep talking, that discussion isn't over.

It will be hard, it will be difficult and..it will be rewarding. Compromise isn't something you should be afraid of in a relationship...after all its a give and take thing, it helps you grow together.

Oh yeah, compromise doesn't only work in love relationships, but also in work relationships.


Here's to positive(in love) people!

Old Values- Obsolete or Classics?

A paradigm shift has occurred on this planet we call home, and it has to do with the value one has for themselves.

Chivalry, waiting until you are married for sex, manners, deportment...these are some of the things that one must possess in abundance to be considered having a high value of themselves.

Word through the grapevine is that these things are dead. However, they aren't just hanging on by a thread, about to kick the bucket,they are hidden behind a facade of people not wanting to conform and who want to exercise their right for freedom of expression.

Think about it. Isn't it amazing that going against the grain and breaking away from the herd of society, normally means losing values? Case in point- years ago a pants was found at the waist and held in place with a belt, now due to person not wanting to stay with those values of long ago, some defiant person said," its my right to express myself, I shouldn't have to wear my belt at my waist and keep my boxers covered, I brought my boxers with a design so the world should see my design!" And lo and behold, a new way of thinking (paradigm) emerged and now where ever you go boxers and low waist belts are staring at you.

However, should those values really be thrown out of the window because they are 'old ways' of thinking.

Some things just never go out of style. To be honest, there is nothing wrong with opening a door for a lady, waiting till you found someone that you want to be with forever, saying good morning to strangers or wearing your clothes to actually cover areas that should be left to the imagination.

I believe that the world is taking a turn into a deep abyss where not having values is the new values...before we used to look at people who didn't say good morning or wear their clothes to fit as the strangers of the society and today, it is people with the old time values that are regarded as strange, outcasts and/or outsiders.

Being a virgin at 20 is now a miracle and you are to be seen as a joke, having a baby at 14 isn't seen worth the effort to even 'drop ya jaw' as it is becoming common place.

Just look at yourself, and ask, is it worth it to fit in nowadays at the expensive of seeming to have a low value on myself? Is not conforming to certain aspects of society really moving me forward or sending me back. 

I can't answer it for you, just to point out that not all old things are obsolete, some of them become classics and thus should be preserved.

Here's to positive people!

Mirror Mirror

A great man, in the island of Barbados named The Hon. Errol Walton Barrow once asked " what mirror image do you have of yourself?'

I've found myself asking this question recently along with the questions...what image do others see when they look at me and which image, theirs or mine' matters most?

Let's focus on the image of yourself. Yes, there is plastic surgery, make up and all sorts of fangle dangled techniques one can you to improve your looks. However, this isn't the image Errol Barrow was talking about. Any one can look good, but can you be beautiful?

Bet you just tried to take a closer look in that mirror, cause that person starting back just discovered a flaw...No person is a saint, however if you think of all the actions you have done through out your lifetime and the majority of your actions make you proud, then that person in the mirror is more than good looking, you are drop dead gorgeous or handsome!

But if your thoughts cause you to grimace then, don't begin to despair, if you want to change, it's never too late, except for when you stop breathing.

So right now, think about it...are you comfortable with the you that you are today?

Now, what do people see when they look at you...or a more accurate question is what do they think they see when they look at you. As confusing as it is  that statement just answered the third question I've been asking myself.

If people only see what you want them to see, does their opinion matter. Someone may think you have a bad personality and never know if there is a reason to make you that way. They see the you that is put forth, not the you that you would find alone at home.

So other people's view of you, while it is important, is not more important than your own. Be true with yourself and others will see that you shine through, no matter what persona you have on. If you are seen as bad but the image you see of yourself isn't bad at all it will push through and everyone will see the you that you believe you are.

Do things that make you proud and you will never have cause to doubt the mirror image you have. And people will always see a glimpse of the real you.

So the moral of this post, be the you behind close doors in public.

Here's to positive people!

Uncork the Bottle

Some days you get up and you don't know why, but you can sense that the day is going to tank. You get up and say what up!..so far so good..then you start to think about your day and all you have to do. Some of those things will make you smile and then others...you don't know why, there's no solid, concrete reason, but dread begins to seep into your mind and you just can't shake it.

You go through the steps to make your day better, the positive attitude is in place.. then the bus takes a while to come or your car doesn't start and you shake it off,  you already made up your mind not to sweat the tiny stuff.

Then as your day progress and you get to the part of the day that caused you to feel a bit of dread before and you get through it, unscaled and you breathe a sigh of relief. One road hump...conquered.

Then, you don't know why but little things are becoming harder to ignore, and as much as you try to brush it off, for every problem you brush off, one teeny tiny bit of residue remains on your shoulders and for every problem, issue, upset and mishap you brush away, the pile of residue on your shoulder grows in size.

That's when you start to feel short tempered, the sun is suddenly beating to hot, or the wind is blowing you the wrong way, there is not enough space in the bus, the radio is only playing foolishness, the person across the hallway doesn't know that their cellphone conversation is exceeding the sound barrier and some idiot asks you an obvious question...you got my point yet?

Things that would not normally be a problem are suddenly and quickly becoming irritating.

What do you do? Do you snap at the person who seems to push their irritating behavior to the edge of your last nerve? Or walk away thinking evil thoughts, such as "If I could push my boot through your head I would.."

Well, I can say walk away, but not with evil thoughts. Just walk away from it all, find some place you can be alone and let it all out. Talk to the wall, the universe, your teddy bear, your pillow, any inanimate object that cannot be consumed, really. Some people write it out, but if you are like me and just want to let go of all the things that are bothering you, just talking out loud or yelling/screaming away you frustration is enough.

You can only carry the weight on your shoulders for so long, before it becomes to heavy a burden. Sometimes, having a mortal person to share your load (for example- talking about the annoying things to someone close to you) can be just as annoying, especially when that person is telling you everything is going to be O.K.

You know it will be, you just need to let out all you have bottled up, not hear the advice. The best thing you can do for someone is just to listen, and that is sometimes the best thing someone can do for you.

So, today's lesson, don't feel that you must never speak of your problems, you can, even if it's to an empty room, you have to release the discomfort to the universe and reconnect with your positive attitude and you will find that life may just become bearable again.

Here's to positive people!

O Happy Me and Happy You...

I have often wondered why when my life is at what, I think is it's lowest, why people always say there is someone worse than you out there.

Why should I need the ideology that someone is worse off than I am in order to comfort myself...more importantly, why should you?

The knowledge that there are people worse off is a comfort, yes, but it should never be a big source of your comfort (if it is, take an 'am I evil' test)

You've probably heard this saying (it was in a Kirk Franklin song) but joy comes in the morning. As much as we want to wake up happy and stay that way for the rest of our lives, it's not always the case.

So how to handle those sad moments that creep up upon us. This post is all about generating happiness from within yourself.

For some this comes easy, for others it will be abit hard.

 I'm always being told I live to the radio that plays in my head, always seem to be hearing music, dancing a jive in the street, keeping noise and constantly in a good mood. However, there are times when I have a what I like to call 'ugly' periods..and the person closets to me is always the first to say that that attitude isn't me and that I should calm down..cease..and decease.

And that person is right, it's not a good look on me and you can rest assure that its not a good look on you. It's how you deal with those periods in your life that allows for you to generate happiness.

Many people have said go to your happy place. And it is awesome advice. When life feels impossible and like it is just a miserable cesspool of sorry happenings one after the other, think of that time in your life where everything in the universe came to a standstill and your mind took a snapshot of your life at that single point.

For example, my happy place is the beach not far from my home, sitting on a rock, during high tide and watching shoes get covered by the water. When my life is a confusing mess and I can't tell where one problem ends and another begins, I think of that moment.

After finding your happy place, just take a few moments and think through all that is bombarding you. I like to think of it as my bomb shelter time, in the war time of life. It provides you with a way to put each problem in its place and to find the best possible solution to deal with each problem, and also it helps to place them in order of importance. When everything comes at you all at once, a small problem suddenly seems like a major problem.

To generate your happiness, after accomplishing these mind calming things, is all about your ATTITUDE 


Your mind determines your happiness, If you see things as an unsolvable problem, your attitude becomes bleak, and the sense of overwhelming hopelessness will envelope you and just like that your happiness is gone.

Keep  your mind positive and your happiness will flow. Not stressing the little things in life will help you, and approaching all problems with a 'yes I can' attitude, will enable you to see how life becomes a brighter and happier place.

It wont erase any stumbling blocks from coming your way but it will aid in how you get through those times with a smile on your face.

Here's to positive people!

Hmm, This Is Right...Isn't It?

This post is a reminder to the humans of the world, nothing said here is  or should be new to you, it's all been said before. On your televisions, radios, by your parents, grandparents etc. Our problem is we don't find the time to listen to those voices in our heads that tell us 'oh no, this may not be the right thing!'

Simple things that require alot of thought... I'll be the first to admit, I operate on impulsion, my actions consist of me asking after...how the hell did I end up in this.

I know like many  of us out there we know these things but just never take the time to consider the pros and cons of the situations.

There are always indicators that you are doing the right or wrong thing...so..what are they??

CHECKLIST:

• Are your actions justified-do they make sense
• What are the benefits for you and your growth when you do this
• Who is affected by your actions
• How are they affected by actions

In your head weigh the pros and cons, keeping those points in mind. It doesn't have to be a long list, for all minor decisions weigh three options one pro and one con and for the last option, don't think on it, say the first consequence to come to mind. If it is a positive consequence then, by all means go ahead and engage in the action but if the first thing to come to mind is negative then I suggest you find something else to do.

There's nothing wrong with impulsive actions, once you are prepared to take the consequences. Always take responsibility for your actions, as I said last time, you have free will and no one forces you to do anything, so there is no one else to blame but yourself.

Every action has a consequence and other people are always affected by your decision. So my advice to making the right decision...always find the time to think about the consequences that will arise from you decisions.

Your health, mentally and physically should benefit from your actions. If you are at work and the place is causing you more harm than good, do you stay because the money is good? Or do you take that scary leap and terminate your job.

I know of a person who had the courage to do it, the job was bringing him down and he made the decision to quit, had no prospects at the time just faith... it was hard to imagine myself in that position,I doubt I would've done it like that. 

Consider the magnitude of doing something like that. the right decision is seldom easy, in a world where everything fun and easy has a label written in big and bold "IT'S THE WRONG THING, DON'T TOUCH"

However you have to know your value and the value of the people who surround you, and your decisions will start to reflect the 'right' choices for you.

Here's to positive people!

To be Sheep or NOT To Be Sheep

So I mentioned in my last post that if I can't be a LEADER then I will be NEUTRAL. I'm pretty sure many of us have grown up with the mentality that if you aren't a leader, then you have to be a follower. However, as I always tell myself, there is always option C.

I walk to the beat of my own drum and I refuse to follow anyone because I have no choice. There is always a choice, if you go along with the crowd, don't just follow blindly, and if anyone asks you why you are doing something, don't EVER say that you are doing it because everyone is doing it.

When you are in a group there is a leader and of course the members of the team. The leader is really a moderator , who fields the ideas of the team members and makes final decisions on what transpires among the group. Each person should have a voice and talking things out is a good way to ensure that everyone has a chance to contribute to the direction of the group without being a dormant sheep. If your group is doing something you don't like, do you just blindly follow?

I ask thee my good fellows, ask not what your country(or group) can do for you but what you can do for your country(or group).

You speak out and let your concerns be heard. Don't just go along with majority ruling especially, if they have not heard the reasons why some people are opposed to a decision. If in situations like that you find that your attempts to be heard and to contribute to the direction of the group are not recognized, if there is no way you can abstain from being a part of the group, then do nothing or in other words be neutral.

In a class or work setting, take it to a higher power. At times like that, more than your honor is at stake, it can be your money and your grade. Be a leader, speak out and talk to the group and if they don't listen and the group is tanking the project you are in, ask to be transfered due to irreconcilable differences. And if that fails, think about it, weigh the options  then decide for yourself if this is where you want to be, if it is put your all in it, if it isn't then don't wait on people to change things, remove yourself.

When being neutral, people will ridicule you and ask why you don't do anything to change it, if you have tried and I mean really tried, then by all means let the sheep walk of the cliff, just don't reluctantly follow.

As the steps to attaining a better day said, your actions must match your words. Take your position and stick with it. Be a leader in life and ensure your mind is clear, know yourself and allow no one to change you, just because their way is better, change yourself because you believe it is better.

If you cannot justify for yourself the actions you are taking then hit the brakes and stop what you are doing because it cannot be something you have decided for yourself to do, the herd decided it and you went with it.

Remember, humans are separated from other animals simply because we have FREE WILL, utilize it.

Next post I think I will look at how to know what you are doing is the right thing. No point exercising your free will and end up doing the wrong thing.

Here's to positive people!

No man is an island

Get up people and lemme hear u holla WHAT UP!! If you haven't yet, start thinking about your day and set about executing it and should any unwarranted plans come up don't panic but create your contingency plan and once again, execute it.

The final step is here *drumroll please* and the step award goes to..SUPPORT!!

There comes a point in everyone's life where there has to be interaction with others. When you have sent your positive energy out into the world, and you've put you plans in order and executed them, what happens if you can't succeed on your own. Yes.. the mind can think it and the body can do it even with tools, but..what if you get sick, or found a roadblock to heavy for you alone to move, what then?

Your friends can help your plans along and more importantly they can make your plans fun. No man is an island. You can't do it all yourself.

It's not only your physical friends, that you can feel and touch, that will help you. For those of us who believe in a power higher than ourselves, that comfort can go a long way to making us feel like the world is at our fingertips. For those of you who don't believe that there are higher beings in the world (and I'm not talking UFO) then I hope you find that support you need, that cannot be filled by earthly beings.

Your support group has to be carefully chosen, I have always believed if I cannot be a leader, I will be neutral. (Will explain that in my next post, I think it warrants more than a paragraph.)

Your friends should always enhance your life, just like you should enhance theirs. You have to be a friend in order to have a friend.

But how does this fit the steps to having a better day, let's take the quick trot through the steps:

• Get up and say what up to the universe-  be positive
• Think about your day- be prepared
• Don't panic and create a contingency plan- be focused
• Execute- follow through with your actions to match your words
• Support- having friends should enhance and help you with your plans

Get it yet? I hope so, these steps have helped me since I've been in the preschool, primary and secondary institutions of life and now that I'm in the university of life I find I need them more.

The days are becoming increasingly filled with joy and educational experiences, but the problems that arise impact us more as we get older cause we feel we should be able to handle them or be better able to protect ourselves.

When that is the case just stay positive, remain organized, never panic, let you actions speak and at the end of the day find the people who give you joy.

Here's to positive people!

Execution

Thought I would share an example of the steps in action. Today was a mid term exam ,I studied for this exam and was feeling prepared. I got up and said what up?! feeling all calm and sending out a positive vibe. I Thought about my day, in particular the pending exam (you may want to focus a little more intently on the major 'events or plans' that you have in your day when you are on the thinking step.)

I went through the material I had studied. Got into the exam, saw the first section and it was nothing I had even remotely seen or noticed while I was studying! Immediately I went into a panic...why had I never seen this information before, was I even in the right exam...then I slowly calmed down and counted to ten, just to try and erase the panic and went through the rest of the paper.

 Some stuff was becoming familiar as I went through the paper, so I implemented my contingency plan and instead of starting with the first section (which still had me stumped) I did the sections that I knew, building confidence as I went on. By the time I got back to the first section some of the information was beginning to make sense and I was able to answer some of the questions (not all unfortunately) and in my book, making an attempt and failing is better than failing without making the attempt...the exam is in God's hands now and hopefully I will still pass :)

The steps of achieving a better day, aren't going to ensure you have success, they are about giving you the tools to manage the events of your day. Success comes from the hard work and hard work requires focus, these steps are to help you focus.

So what is step four. It's execution. Execution means that if your day is going good, stick through with your plans and if you have to implement your contingency plan, ensure that you follow through with your actions  to match your words.

We have all heard the saying talk is cheap and that actions speak louder than words. That's the execution step in a nutshell. Its all fine and dandy to say that you will go to the store but if you do not get up and go (doing so to the best of your ability) then your positive attitude and thoughts are just worthless things you do to make yourself feel good.

There is never anything you can not do, If the mind can think it the body can do it and if your body cannot do it on its own, there are tools. Example: man wanted to fly, the mind thought it, the body wanted to do it but was unable to on its own, then the mind thought of airplanes and BAM...man was flying.

So get up and say what up, think about your plans for the day, if a crisis comes up don't panic and create you contingency plan and finally execute  so that your actions match your words...one more step and  you will have an idea of how to achieve a better day.

Here's to positive people!

Managing Your Day

You know the drill by now, GET UP AND SAY WHAT UP!! now start thinking about your day... whew...now's the time to get about with your day's work.

There is so much that is going to happen through out your day, and now that you have a positive outlook and the general idea of how your plan is going to go... how will you manage the unexpected events of the day, like a car stalling when you are in a hurry, or can't find your work projects, or something is suddenly sprung on you are the last minute.

This step, if we were square dancing, would be called a two step because it has...you guess it...two steps.. Step one of step three (stay with me don'g get confused :->) :

 DO NOT PANIC Nothing is achieved if you can not think clearly. We have all seen it happen at some point or the other, it even happened to me a few weeks ago...something as as "life altering" as losing files off of your flash drive makes you feel that the earth is in the next apocalypse.

If your first reaction is to ask God why He has forsaken you, then this step is definitely for you. Over reacting is a sign of panic. It will be hard (believe me, I know) but it will be worth it, thoughts will become focused and step two of step three can begin.

THINK OF A CONTINGENCY PLAN If you can keep your panic under wraps, rational and sensible plans will begin to fall into place. So all your work is gone, you now begin to think, did I save it on my pc?...will i find it in the recent tab of the program i was using to create the document, did i ever email it, is it in my sent folder attached to an email??

When you mind is focus, options become apparent. Not panic and creating your contingency plan and/or options, you are still attempting to maintain your positive mentality. YOU are telling the problem What up!? instead of letting the problem turn you around and say don't let the door hit you on the way out...

Doesn't your day already seem a bit more manageable, there are two more steps to come. But first, let's recap the steps:

Step one:Get up and say What up
Step two: Think about your day
Step three a) never panic b) create/think of your contingency options

Hope these things help :->

Here's to positive people!

Get up, What up...and What next???

Hi and Chello my good people, if you haven't done it yet...GET UP AND SAY WHAT UP!!! lol ok you can sit down again.

Greetings from the land of the hectic, where the universe is full of surprising twist and turns. If you are a student, a business person (need to stay gender neutral :>) or a bum, you know life can become overwhelming.

As a student, you may think you are on top of the work and them suddenly there's as assignment popping up out of thin air, as a business person a crisis might break out, a client might decide to screw you over or customers having a bad day take it out on you, when you are just doing your job...as a bum...it mite rain?...

Well what ever it is, and you think the "get up and say what up" method was just a get up and feel the world bite you in the butt method, well duh, did you really think that was all you had to do??

You've done the most important step, as I see it: you got or started to get positive attitude towards your day.

So what comes next?

Organize your day.

For many of us out there who may be organized when they have to be ( like me) or not organized at all, this might actually cause many of us to stop reading this blog now. It doesn't really mean you have to keep a pen and paper set by your bedside  or a planner or a diary, not that it wouldn't help, if you are into that sort of thing, then by all means go ahead.

If you are like me, however, that might become tedious. What I do is think about my day. It's as simple as that.

In case you haven't noticed it, from as early as nursery school, a routine lifestyle is instill in humans. They get up, bathe at some point during the day, eat, go to school or work, engage in some sort of interaction with friends, significant other or family and then go back to bed to begin the cycle again the next day.

Think about it, your basic day has two or more of these aspects (duh, hopefully you bathe and eat) and it only gets interesting when you get unexpected plans or a crisis breaks out. Now, some plans may excite you, like an invitation to dinner or an unexpected trip with people you like, however a small percentage might do the opposite and really bring down your day.

By organizing your day, you leave space for the unexpected events of life. When one has a plan it's easier to deviate from it AND find your way back, than to have no clue of what you originally had to do and be floundering around in the dark all day.

Have you ever heard the saying, "come to the light?" Well getting up and thinking about your day (or writing it down) is your light, when the unexpected happens, and things in your world become  dim, you will have your light  at the end of the tunnel to guide you through it.

Step 1: Get up and Say What up!
Step 2: Organize your day

When the hectic aspects of life steps in and you feel pressured (which may still happen) the next post may help you with that. Until next time just see if those two steps make even a minor difference in how your day is executed.

Here's to positive people!

Get up and say What Up!

People of the world!! What up! I was inspired, captured, filled with wonder, by the world of blogging...isn't it really just a virtual diary...but with public access. So what if it is, some people place some very interesting post, and it's always nice to hear what people have to say...but what about YOU! DO you have a say??


This blog is just about you relaxing, finding yourself and living life to your best. I do not have a PHD and the university i'm getting this information from is called life, its's all something i have tried that worked out for me so i'm hoping it can do the same.


So... get up and say what up! I know people are thinking what does this silly girl mean, who should i say it to, what's the point, and if i get up and say what up what difference does it make...


Well, it's been said in so many ways before, if you haven't heard about karma, or the saying, " what goes around comes around" then congratulations...you really haven't been out of your house, met anyone or owned any technological gadget like a tv or radio since you first drew a breath...


The get up and say what up principle encompasses those things... if you wake up positive you and give off a positive vibe, the universe will reward you with the same.


Making sense yet? Thought not, maybe because you are wondering, what about the haters, the traffic,  bills and such things of the like...
Do this with me...just laugh..HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...and say... CAN'T STUDY OTHERS UNTIL I FIX MYSELF!!


Does't mean you are to drive the road like you are the only one, or because someone at work or school doesn't like you, you can't work with them..the suggestive solutions are coming, for right now just try the Get Up and say What UP and you are saying it out loud to the universe, see if that one change makes any difference.


Here's to positive thinking people!