I have been writing this post since morning, took time out to watch television, do some school work, read, clean, bathe, cook, eat, talk to family and future family and finally do more work. Sad as it sounds, gave me another post to write about, so yay!
Procrastination, is the topic of the day, it's so easy for us, who are all on the path to success somehow, to be distracted by the shiny and glitzy side streets called "Easy Lane" and "Do it Soon Avenue."
I fall prey to those attractive streets often myself, nice to kick back and take a load off, nothing wrong with the R &R, but don't become so caught up in those cushy lifestyle streets, the real world isn't waiting for you will you are on vacation.
In one procrastinating session of mine, a couple of weeks ago, I heard on the Spongebob show (really good entertainment if you just want to waste time) Squidward tell Mr. Krabs "Why do today what you can do tomorrow?" And Mr. Krabs' reply to that statement was:
"What is Today but Yesterday's Tomorrow?"
Such profound words, six words which if they stood alone have no deep meaning, but placed together...they are mind blowing...
What is today but yesterday's tomorrow... no matter how long you put things off until tomorrow, eventually..they will be done on a 'today.'
I have to say, its not easy, but knowing your goals, is a serious motivator. Think of all the things that will result of you not doing an action in a timely manner. Now think of what will happen if you did it, without putting it off?
The putting it off reaps rewards for the now, but the doing it now ..well that reaps rewards for your future. Whether it be in time, cash or something as simple as peace of mind.
So don't put off what you can do today, until tomorrow...it really just fills up your tomorrow.
Here's to positive people!
Thursday 31 March 2011
Wednesday 30 March 2011
Oh No!..Don't Jump!!
Every time I give a tutor my email address, let''s say its beachfete@soso.com(which is very similar to what my email addy is), I always get some sort of heat. They always say, why do you have an email like that? You should have something that sounds more professional...
Well I say, stop judging the book by the cover. One of my many steps to attaining success, is having my goals written or posted somewhere that I am constantly reminded of them. You know, so I never lose sight. (If you haven't done it at any point in your life, try it, especially for the long term goals.)
My email address is one such thing, it is the future name of my event coordinating company. I've known what I've wanted to do with my life since I made that email address, way back in 2003, when I was 13. I knew I wanted to do something involving the planning, promotion and execution of events, and my email address was created so that one day, in my future, that email address would be shared by other members of my very big cooperation.
Oftentimes we jump to conclusions about things, based on our perceptions to images and attitudes portrayed by people. Don't jump!
The surface of that water may be clear, but that sand could be closer than you originally thought. Nothing sinks a boat faster, than a miscalculation.
Some people not only jump without looking, they jump into a fog and never find their way out, meaning, they are so stuck in their misconception, that no light is penetrating.
My words of advice, for you to be successful, have a cautious, but OPEN mind, it can open doors that you would have closed off.
Don't always give into your first instinct about people because of the way they are dress,their speech or their email address. First impressions matter, but they are hardly always right.
Here's to positive people!
Well I say, stop judging the book by the cover. One of my many steps to attaining success, is having my goals written or posted somewhere that I am constantly reminded of them. You know, so I never lose sight. (If you haven't done it at any point in your life, try it, especially for the long term goals.)
My email address is one such thing, it is the future name of my event coordinating company. I've known what I've wanted to do with my life since I made that email address, way back in 2003, when I was 13. I knew I wanted to do something involving the planning, promotion and execution of events, and my email address was created so that one day, in my future, that email address would be shared by other members of my very big cooperation.
Oftentimes we jump to conclusions about things, based on our perceptions to images and attitudes portrayed by people. Don't jump!
The surface of that water may be clear, but that sand could be closer than you originally thought. Nothing sinks a boat faster, than a miscalculation.
Some people not only jump without looking, they jump into a fog and never find their way out, meaning, they are so stuck in their misconception, that no light is penetrating.
My words of advice, for you to be successful, have a cautious, but OPEN mind, it can open doors that you would have closed off.
Don't always give into your first instinct about people because of the way they are dress,their speech or their email address. First impressions matter, but they are hardly always right.
Here's to positive people!
Tuesday 29 March 2011
Yes, No...Maybe...
If you have a relationship and you are happy, sprinkled with a few blow ups, tempered with many disagreements but always sweeten at the end of the day with contentment..I feel your...normally I end that sentence with pain...and it still applies in this case..so I feel your pain.
I say that 'I feel your pain' mainly because to maintain a loving relationship requires hard work and a TON of compromise. If you are like me, you can be very, very and I mean very stubborn. As happy go lucky as I can be, when I get a thought in my head, I'm stubborn.
I'm also one of those blessed people to have found the one person who's annoying habits I know I can tolerate for the next hundred years or so. That isn't to say that at some points those habits don't get on my nerves, or my habits don't get on his.
The reason we are able to survive, is the tendency we have to talk things out, until we find a common ground that we can both share. And sometimes those talks can take forever, and I will shut down sometimes because the talking takes a ton of detours, that leads to even more offsetting things until that common ground is established.
So, as much as people want to say the secret to a happy life with a significant other is in saying the female is always right (which is generally true :->) the real secret is compromise.
Saying yes all the time makes you submissive, saying no all the time makes both parties upset and saying maybe means you could be happy.
Here's how to do it:
It will be hard, it will be difficult and..it will be rewarding. Compromise isn't something you should be afraid of in a relationship...after all its a give and take thing, it helps you grow together.
Oh yeah, compromise doesn't only work in love relationships, but also in work relationships.
Here's to positive(in love) people!
I say that 'I feel your pain' mainly because to maintain a loving relationship requires hard work and a TON of compromise. If you are like me, you can be very, very and I mean very stubborn. As happy go lucky as I can be, when I get a thought in my head, I'm stubborn.
I'm also one of those blessed people to have found the one person who's annoying habits I know I can tolerate for the next hundred years or so. That isn't to say that at some points those habits don't get on my nerves, or my habits don't get on his.
The reason we are able to survive, is the tendency we have to talk things out, until we find a common ground that we can both share. And sometimes those talks can take forever, and I will shut down sometimes because the talking takes a ton of detours, that leads to even more offsetting things until that common ground is established.
So, as much as people want to say the secret to a happy life with a significant other is in saying the female is always right (which is generally true :->) the real secret is compromise.
Saying yes all the time makes you submissive, saying no all the time makes both parties upset and saying maybe means you could be happy.
Here's how to do it:
Step one: Don't just shut down and shut up- at the first sign of brewing trouble, don't put up the defenses, it really might not be as bad as you think.
Step 2: Listen- before you jump in with your two cents, think of when you are in a store..do you get change back before you have given in the money? Let the person state their position before refuting it.
Step 3: Communicate- A two way process in which both parties should have a say.
Step 4: Kiss and make up- don't leave the discussion feeling upset, get rid of it through the discussion, if you can't say 'I love you' at the end, then keep talking, that discussion isn't over.
It will be hard, it will be difficult and..it will be rewarding. Compromise isn't something you should be afraid of in a relationship...after all its a give and take thing, it helps you grow together.
Oh yeah, compromise doesn't only work in love relationships, but also in work relationships.
Here's to positive(in love) people!
Monday 28 March 2011
Old Values- Obsolete or Classics?
A paradigm shift has occurred on this planet we call home, and it has to do with the value one has for themselves.
Chivalry, waiting until you are married for sex, manners, deportment...these are some of the things that one must possess in abundance to be considered having a high value of themselves.
Word through the grapevine is that these things are dead. However, they aren't just hanging on by a thread, about to kick the bucket,they are hidden behind a facade of people not wanting to conform and who want to exercise their right for freedom of expression.
Think about it. Isn't it amazing that going against the grain and breaking away from the herd of society, normally means losing values? Case in point- years ago a pants was found at the waist and held in place with a belt, now due to person not wanting to stay with those values of long ago, some defiant person said," its my right to express myself, I shouldn't have to wear my belt at my waist and keep my boxers covered, I brought my boxers with a design so the world should see my design!" And lo and behold, a new way of thinking (paradigm) emerged and now where ever you go boxers and low waist belts are staring at you.
However, should those values really be thrown out of the window because they are 'old ways' of thinking.
Some things just never go out of style. To be honest, there is nothing wrong with opening a door for a lady, waiting till you found someone that you want to be with forever, saying good morning to strangers or wearing your clothes to actually cover areas that should be left to the imagination.
I believe that the world is taking a turn into a deep abyss where not having values is the new values...before we used to look at people who didn't say good morning or wear their clothes to fit as the strangers of the society and today, it is people with the old time values that are regarded as strange, outcasts and/or outsiders.
Being a virgin at 20 is now a miracle and you are to be seen as a joke, having a baby at 14 isn't seen worth the effort to even 'drop ya jaw' as it is becoming common place.
Just look at yourself, and ask, is it worth it to fit in nowadays at the expensive of seeming to have a low value on myself? Is not conforming to certain aspects of society really moving me forward or sending me back.
I can't answer it for you, just to point out that not all old things are obsolete, some of them become classics and thus should be preserved.
Here's to positive people!
Saturday 26 March 2011
Mirror Mirror
A great man, in the island of Barbados named The Hon. Errol Walton Barrow once asked " what mirror image do you have of yourself?'
I've found myself asking this question recently along with the questions...what image do others see when they look at me and which image, theirs or mine' matters most?
Let's focus on the image of yourself. Yes, there is plastic surgery, make up and all sorts of fangle dangled techniques one can you to improve your looks. However, this isn't the image Errol Barrow was talking about. Any one can look good, but can you be beautiful?
Bet you just tried to take a closer look in that mirror, cause that person starting back just discovered a flaw...No person is a saint, however if you think of all the actions you have done through out your lifetime and the majority of your actions make you proud, then that person in the mirror is more than good looking, you are drop dead gorgeous or handsome!
But if your thoughts cause you to grimace then, don't begin to despair, if you want to change, it's never too late, except for when you stop breathing.
So right now, think about it...are you comfortable with the you that you are today?
Now, what do people see when they look at you...or a more accurate question is what do they think they see when they look at you. As confusing as it is that statement just answered the third question I've been asking myself.
If people only see what you want them to see, does their opinion matter. Someone may think you have a bad personality and never know if there is a reason to make you that way. They see the you that is put forth, not the you that you would find alone at home.
So other people's view of you, while it is important, is not more important than your own. Be true with yourself and others will see that you shine through, no matter what persona you have on. If you are seen as bad but the image you see of yourself isn't bad at all it will push through and everyone will see the you that you believe you are.
Do things that make you proud and you will never have cause to doubt the mirror image you have. And people will always see a glimpse of the real you.
So the moral of this post, be the you behind close doors in public.
Here's to positive people!
I've found myself asking this question recently along with the questions...what image do others see when they look at me and which image, theirs or mine' matters most?
Let's focus on the image of yourself. Yes, there is plastic surgery, make up and all sorts of fangle dangled techniques one can you to improve your looks. However, this isn't the image Errol Barrow was talking about. Any one can look good, but can you be beautiful?
Bet you just tried to take a closer look in that mirror, cause that person starting back just discovered a flaw...No person is a saint, however if you think of all the actions you have done through out your lifetime and the majority of your actions make you proud, then that person in the mirror is more than good looking, you are drop dead gorgeous or handsome!
But if your thoughts cause you to grimace then, don't begin to despair, if you want to change, it's never too late, except for when you stop breathing.
So right now, think about it...are you comfortable with the you that you are today?
Now, what do people see when they look at you...or a more accurate question is what do they think they see when they look at you. As confusing as it is that statement just answered the third question I've been asking myself.
If people only see what you want them to see, does their opinion matter. Someone may think you have a bad personality and never know if there is a reason to make you that way. They see the you that is put forth, not the you that you would find alone at home.
So other people's view of you, while it is important, is not more important than your own. Be true with yourself and others will see that you shine through, no matter what persona you have on. If you are seen as bad but the image you see of yourself isn't bad at all it will push through and everyone will see the you that you believe you are.
Do things that make you proud and you will never have cause to doubt the mirror image you have. And people will always see a glimpse of the real you.
So the moral of this post, be the you behind close doors in public.
Here's to positive people!
Friday 25 March 2011
Uncork the Bottle
Some days you get up and you don't know why, but you can sense that the day is going to tank. You get up and say what up!..so far so good..then you start to think about your day and all you have to do. Some of those things will make you smile and then others...you don't know why, there's no solid, concrete reason, but dread begins to seep into your mind and you just can't shake it.
You go through the steps to make your day better, the positive attitude is in place.. then the bus takes a while to come or your car doesn't start and you shake it off, you already made up your mind not to sweat the tiny stuff.
Then as your day progress and you get to the part of the day that caused you to feel a bit of dread before and you get through it, unscaled and you breathe a sigh of relief. One road hump...conquered.
Then, you don't know why but little things are becoming harder to ignore, and as much as you try to brush it off, for every problem you brush off, one teeny tiny bit of residue remains on your shoulders and for every problem, issue, upset and mishap you brush away, the pile of residue on your shoulder grows in size.
That's when you start to feel short tempered, the sun is suddenly beating to hot, or the wind is blowing you the wrong way, there is not enough space in the bus, the radio is only playing foolishness, the person across the hallway doesn't know that their cellphone conversation is exceeding the sound barrier and some idiot asks you an obvious question...you got my point yet?
Things that would not normally be a problem are suddenly and quickly becoming irritating.
What do you do? Do you snap at the person who seems to push their irritating behavior to the edge of your last nerve? Or walk away thinking evil thoughts, such as "If I could push my boot through your head I would.."
Well, I can say walk away, but not with evil thoughts. Just walk away from it all, find some place you can be alone and let it all out. Talk to the wall, the universe, your teddy bear, your pillow, any inanimate object that cannot be consumed, really. Some people write it out, but if you are like me and just want to let go of all the things that are bothering you, just talking out loud or yelling/screaming away you frustration is enough.
You can only carry the weight on your shoulders for so long, before it becomes to heavy a burden. Sometimes, having a mortal person to share your load (for example- talking about the annoying things to someone close to you) can be just as annoying, especially when that person is telling you everything is going to be O.K.
You know it will be, you just need to let out all you have bottled up, not hear the advice. The best thing you can do for someone is just to listen, and that is sometimes the best thing someone can do for you.
So, today's lesson, don't feel that you must never speak of your problems, you can, even if it's to an empty room, you have to release the discomfort to the universe and reconnect with your positive attitude and you will find that life may just become bearable again.
Here's to positive people!
You go through the steps to make your day better, the positive attitude is in place.. then the bus takes a while to come or your car doesn't start and you shake it off, you already made up your mind not to sweat the tiny stuff.
Then as your day progress and you get to the part of the day that caused you to feel a bit of dread before and you get through it, unscaled and you breathe a sigh of relief. One road hump...conquered.
Then, you don't know why but little things are becoming harder to ignore, and as much as you try to brush it off, for every problem you brush off, one teeny tiny bit of residue remains on your shoulders and for every problem, issue, upset and mishap you brush away, the pile of residue on your shoulder grows in size.
That's when you start to feel short tempered, the sun is suddenly beating to hot, or the wind is blowing you the wrong way, there is not enough space in the bus, the radio is only playing foolishness, the person across the hallway doesn't know that their cellphone conversation is exceeding the sound barrier and some idiot asks you an obvious question...you got my point yet?
Things that would not normally be a problem are suddenly and quickly becoming irritating.
What do you do? Do you snap at the person who seems to push their irritating behavior to the edge of your last nerve? Or walk away thinking evil thoughts, such as "If I could push my boot through your head I would.."
Well, I can say walk away, but not with evil thoughts. Just walk away from it all, find some place you can be alone and let it all out. Talk to the wall, the universe, your teddy bear, your pillow, any inanimate object that cannot be consumed, really. Some people write it out, but if you are like me and just want to let go of all the things that are bothering you, just talking out loud or yelling/screaming away you frustration is enough.
You can only carry the weight on your shoulders for so long, before it becomes to heavy a burden. Sometimes, having a mortal person to share your load (for example- talking about the annoying things to someone close to you) can be just as annoying, especially when that person is telling you everything is going to be O.K.
You know it will be, you just need to let out all you have bottled up, not hear the advice. The best thing you can do for someone is just to listen, and that is sometimes the best thing someone can do for you.
So, today's lesson, don't feel that you must never speak of your problems, you can, even if it's to an empty room, you have to release the discomfort to the universe and reconnect with your positive attitude and you will find that life may just become bearable again.
Here's to positive people!
Thursday 24 March 2011
O Happy Me and Happy You...
I have often wondered why when my life is at what, I think is it's lowest, why people always say there is someone worse than you out there.
Why should I need the ideology that someone is worse off than I am in order to comfort myself...more importantly, why should you?
The knowledge that there are people worse off is a comfort, yes, but it should never be a big source of your comfort (if it is, take an 'am I evil' test)
You've probably heard this saying (it was in a Kirk Franklin song) but joy comes in the morning. As much as we want to wake up happy and stay that way for the rest of our lives, it's not always the case.
So how to handle those sad moments that creep up upon us. This post is all about generating happiness from within yourself.
For some this comes easy, for others it will be abit hard.
I'm always being told I live to the radio that plays in my head, always seem to be hearing music, dancing a jive in the street, keeping noise and constantly in a good mood. However, there are times when I have a what I like to call 'ugly' periods..and the person closets to me is always the first to say that that attitude isn't me and that I should calm down..cease..and decease.
And that person is right, it's not a good look on me and you can rest assure that its not a good look on you. It's how you deal with those periods in your life that allows for you to generate happiness.
Many people have said go to your happy place. And it is awesome advice. When life feels impossible and like it is just a miserable cesspool of sorry happenings one after the other, think of that time in your life where everything in the universe came to a standstill and your mind took a snapshot of your life at that single point.
For example, my happy place is the beach not far from my home, sitting on a rock, during high tide and watching shoes get covered by the water. When my life is a confusing mess and I can't tell where one problem ends and another begins, I think of that moment.
After finding your happy place, just take a few moments and think through all that is bombarding you. I like to think of it as my bomb shelter time, in the war time of life. It provides you with a way to put each problem in its place and to find the best possible solution to deal with each problem, and also it helps to place them in order of importance. When everything comes at you all at once, a small problem suddenly seems like a major problem.
To generate your happiness, after accomplishing these mind calming things, is all about your ATTITUDE
Your mind determines your happiness, If you see things as an unsolvable problem, your attitude becomes bleak, and the sense of overwhelming hopelessness will envelope you and just like that your happiness is gone.
Keep your mind positive and your happiness will flow. Not stressing the little things in life will help you, and approaching all problems with a 'yes I can' attitude, will enable you to see how life becomes a brighter and happier place.
It wont erase any stumbling blocks from coming your way but it will aid in how you get through those times with a smile on your face.
Here's to positive people!
Why should I need the ideology that someone is worse off than I am in order to comfort myself...more importantly, why should you?
The knowledge that there are people worse off is a comfort, yes, but it should never be a big source of your comfort (if it is, take an 'am I evil' test)
You've probably heard this saying (it was in a Kirk Franklin song) but joy comes in the morning. As much as we want to wake up happy and stay that way for the rest of our lives, it's not always the case.
So how to handle those sad moments that creep up upon us. This post is all about generating happiness from within yourself.
For some this comes easy, for others it will be abit hard.
I'm always being told I live to the radio that plays in my head, always seem to be hearing music, dancing a jive in the street, keeping noise and constantly in a good mood. However, there are times when I have a what I like to call 'ugly' periods..and the person closets to me is always the first to say that that attitude isn't me and that I should calm down..cease..and decease.
And that person is right, it's not a good look on me and you can rest assure that its not a good look on you. It's how you deal with those periods in your life that allows for you to generate happiness.
Many people have said go to your happy place. And it is awesome advice. When life feels impossible and like it is just a miserable cesspool of sorry happenings one after the other, think of that time in your life where everything in the universe came to a standstill and your mind took a snapshot of your life at that single point.
For example, my happy place is the beach not far from my home, sitting on a rock, during high tide and watching shoes get covered by the water. When my life is a confusing mess and I can't tell where one problem ends and another begins, I think of that moment.
After finding your happy place, just take a few moments and think through all that is bombarding you. I like to think of it as my bomb shelter time, in the war time of life. It provides you with a way to put each problem in its place and to find the best possible solution to deal with each problem, and also it helps to place them in order of importance. When everything comes at you all at once, a small problem suddenly seems like a major problem.
To generate your happiness, after accomplishing these mind calming things, is all about your ATTITUDE
Your mind determines your happiness, If you see things as an unsolvable problem, your attitude becomes bleak, and the sense of overwhelming hopelessness will envelope you and just like that your happiness is gone.
Keep your mind positive and your happiness will flow. Not stressing the little things in life will help you, and approaching all problems with a 'yes I can' attitude, will enable you to see how life becomes a brighter and happier place.
It wont erase any stumbling blocks from coming your way but it will aid in how you get through those times with a smile on your face.
Here's to positive people!
Hmm, This Is Right...Isn't It?
This post is a reminder to the humans of the world, nothing said here is or should be new to you, it's all been said before. On your televisions, radios, by your parents, grandparents etc. Our problem is we don't find the time to listen to those voices in our heads that tell us 'oh no, this may not be the right thing!'
There are always indicators that you are doing the right or wrong thing...so..what are they??
CHECKLIST:
Simple things that require alot of thought... I'll be the first to admit, I operate on impulsion, my actions consist of me asking after...how the hell did I end up in this.
I know like many of us out there we know these things but just never take the time to consider the pros and cons of the situations.
There are always indicators that you are doing the right or wrong thing...so..what are they??
CHECKLIST:
- Are your actions justified-do they make sense
- What are the benefits for you and your growth when you do this
- Who is affected by your actions
- How are they affected by actions
In your head weigh the pros and cons, keeping those points in mind. It doesn't have to be a long list, for all minor decisions weigh three options one pro and one con and for the last option, don't think on it, say the first consequence to come to mind. If it is a positive consequence then, by all means go ahead and engage in the action but if the first thing to come to mind is negative then I suggest you find something else to do.
There's nothing wrong with impulsive actions, once you are prepared to take the consequences. Always take responsibility for your actions, as I said last time, you have free will and no one forces you to do anything, so there is no one else to blame but yourself.
Every action has a consequence and other people are always affected by your decision. So my advice to making the right decision...always find the time to think about the consequences that will arise from you decisions.
Your health, mentally and physically should benefit from your actions. If you are at work and the place is causing you more harm than good, do you stay because the money is good? Or do you take that scary leap and terminate your job.
I know of a person who had the courage to do it, the job was bringing him down and he made the decision to quit, had no prospects at the time just faith... it was hard to imagine myself in that position,I doubt I would've done it like that.
Consider the magnitude of doing something like that. the right decision is seldom easy, in a world where everything fun and easy has a label written in big and bold "IT'S THE WRONG THING, DON'T TOUCH"
However you have to know your value and the value of the people who surround you, and your decisions will start to reflect the 'right' choices for you.
Here's to positive people!
Wednesday 23 March 2011
To be Sheep or NOT To Be Sheep
So I mentioned in my last post that if I can't be a LEADER then I will be NEUTRAL. I'm pretty sure many of us have grown up with the mentality that if you aren't a leader, then you have to be a follower. However, as I always tell myself, there is always option C.
I walk to the beat of my own drum and I refuse to follow anyone because I have no choice. There is always a choice, if you go along with the crowd, don't just follow blindly, and if anyone asks you why you are doing something, don't EVER say that you are doing it because everyone is doing it.
When you are in a group there is a leader and of course the members of the team. The leader is really a moderator , who fields the ideas of the team members and makes final decisions on what transpires among the group. Each person should have a voice and talking things out is a good way to ensure that everyone has a chance to contribute to the direction of the group without being a dormant sheep. If your group is doing something you don't like, do you just blindly follow?
I ask thee my good fellows, ask not what your country(or group) can do for you but what you can do for your country(or group).
You speak out and let your concerns be heard. Don't just go along with majority ruling especially, if they have not heard the reasons why some people are opposed to a decision. If in situations like that you find that your attempts to be heard and to contribute to the direction of the group are not recognized, if there is no way you can abstain from being a part of the group, then do nothing or in other words be neutral.
In a class or work setting, take it to a higher power. At times like that, more than your honor is at stake, it can be your money and your grade. Be a leader, speak out and talk to the group and if they don't listen and the group is tanking the project you are in, ask to be transfered due to irreconcilable differences. And if that fails, think about it, weigh the options then decide for yourself if this is where you want to be, if it is put your all in it, if it isn't then don't wait on people to change things, remove yourself.
When being neutral, people will ridicule you and ask why you don't do anything to change it, if you have tried and I mean really tried, then by all means let the sheep walk of the cliff, just don't reluctantly follow.
As the steps to attaining a better day said, your actions must match your words. Take your position and stick with it. Be a leader in life and ensure your mind is clear, know yourself and allow no one to change you, just because their way is better, change yourself because you believe it is better.
If you cannot justify for yourself the actions you are taking then hit the brakes and stop what you are doing because it cannot be something you have decided for yourself to do, the herd decided it and you went with it.
Remember, humans are separated from other animals simply because we have FREE WILL, utilize it.
Next post I think I will look at how to know what you are doing is the right thing. No point exercising your free will and end up doing the wrong thing.
Here's to positive people!
I walk to the beat of my own drum and I refuse to follow anyone because I have no choice. There is always a choice, if you go along with the crowd, don't just follow blindly, and if anyone asks you why you are doing something, don't EVER say that you are doing it because everyone is doing it.
When you are in a group there is a leader and of course the members of the team. The leader is really a moderator , who fields the ideas of the team members and makes final decisions on what transpires among the group. Each person should have a voice and talking things out is a good way to ensure that everyone has a chance to contribute to the direction of the group without being a dormant sheep. If your group is doing something you don't like, do you just blindly follow?
I ask thee my good fellows, ask not what your country(or group) can do for you but what you can do for your country(or group).
You speak out and let your concerns be heard. Don't just go along with majority ruling especially, if they have not heard the reasons why some people are opposed to a decision. If in situations like that you find that your attempts to be heard and to contribute to the direction of the group are not recognized, if there is no way you can abstain from being a part of the group, then do nothing or in other words be neutral.
In a class or work setting, take it to a higher power. At times like that, more than your honor is at stake, it can be your money and your grade. Be a leader, speak out and talk to the group and if they don't listen and the group is tanking the project you are in, ask to be transfered due to irreconcilable differences. And if that fails, think about it, weigh the options then decide for yourself if this is where you want to be, if it is put your all in it, if it isn't then don't wait on people to change things, remove yourself.
When being neutral, people will ridicule you and ask why you don't do anything to change it, if you have tried and I mean really tried, then by all means let the sheep walk of the cliff, just don't reluctantly follow.
As the steps to attaining a better day said, your actions must match your words. Take your position and stick with it. Be a leader in life and ensure your mind is clear, know yourself and allow no one to change you, just because their way is better, change yourself because you believe it is better.
If you cannot justify for yourself the actions you are taking then hit the brakes and stop what you are doing because it cannot be something you have decided for yourself to do, the herd decided it and you went with it.
Remember, humans are separated from other animals simply because we have FREE WILL, utilize it.
Next post I think I will look at how to know what you are doing is the right thing. No point exercising your free will and end up doing the wrong thing.
Here's to positive people!
Tuesday 22 March 2011
No man is an island
Get up people and lemme hear u holla WHAT UP!! If you haven't yet, start thinking about your day and set about executing it and should any unwarranted plans come up don't panic but create your contingency plan and once again, execute it.
The final step is here *drumroll please* and the step award goes to..SUPPORT!!
There comes a point in everyone's life where there has to be interaction with others. When you have sent your positive energy out into the world, and you've put you plans in order and executed them, what happens if you can't succeed on your own. Yes.. the mind can think it and the body can do it even with tools, but..what if you get sick, or found a roadblock to heavy for you alone to move, what then?
Your friends can help your plans along and more importantly they can make your plans fun. No man is an island. You can't do it all yourself.
It's not only your physical friends, that you can feel and touch, that will help you. For those of us who believe in a power higher than ourselves, that comfort can go a long way to making us feel like the world is at our fingertips. For those of you who don't believe that there are higher beings in the world (and I'm not talking UFO) then I hope you find that support you need, that cannot be filled by earthly beings.
Your support group has to be carefully chosen, I have always believed if I cannot be a leader, I will be neutral. (Will explain that in my next post, I think it warrants more than a paragraph.)
Your friends should always enhance your life, just like you should enhance theirs. You have to be a friend in order to have a friend.
But how does this fit the steps to having a better day, let's take the quick trot through the steps:
Get it yet? I hope so, these steps have helped me since I've been in the preschool, primary and secondary institutions of life and now that I'm in the university of life I find I need them more.
The days are becoming increasingly filled with joy and educational experiences, but the problems that arise impact us more as we get older cause we feel we should be able to handle them or be better able to protect ourselves.
When that is the case just stay positive, remain organized, never panic, let you actions speak and at the end of the day find the people who give you joy.
Here's to positive people!
The final step is here *drumroll please* and the step award goes to..SUPPORT!!
There comes a point in everyone's life where there has to be interaction with others. When you have sent your positive energy out into the world, and you've put you plans in order and executed them, what happens if you can't succeed on your own. Yes.. the mind can think it and the body can do it even with tools, but..what if you get sick, or found a roadblock to heavy for you alone to move, what then?
Your friends can help your plans along and more importantly they can make your plans fun. No man is an island. You can't do it all yourself.
It's not only your physical friends, that you can feel and touch, that will help you. For those of us who believe in a power higher than ourselves, that comfort can go a long way to making us feel like the world is at our fingertips. For those of you who don't believe that there are higher beings in the world (and I'm not talking UFO) then I hope you find that support you need, that cannot be filled by earthly beings.
Your support group has to be carefully chosen, I have always believed if I cannot be a leader, I will be neutral. (Will explain that in my next post, I think it warrants more than a paragraph.)
Your friends should always enhance your life, just like you should enhance theirs. You have to be a friend in order to have a friend.
But how does this fit the steps to having a better day, let's take the quick trot through the steps:
- Get up and say what up to the universe- be positive
- Think about your day- be prepared
- Don't panic and create a contingency plan- be focused
- Execute- follow through with your actions to match your words
- Support- having friends should enhance and help you with your plans
Get it yet? I hope so, these steps have helped me since I've been in the preschool, primary and secondary institutions of life and now that I'm in the university of life I find I need them more.
The days are becoming increasingly filled with joy and educational experiences, but the problems that arise impact us more as we get older cause we feel we should be able to handle them or be better able to protect ourselves.
When that is the case just stay positive, remain organized, never panic, let you actions speak and at the end of the day find the people who give you joy.
Here's to positive people!
Monday 21 March 2011
Execution
Thought I would share an example of the steps in action. Today was a mid term exam ,I studied for this exam and was feeling prepared. I got up and said what up?! feeling all calm and sending out a positive vibe. I Thought about my day, in particular the pending exam (you may want to focus a little more intently on the major 'events or plans' that you have in your day when you are on the thinking step.)
I went through the material I had studied. Got into the exam, saw the first section and it was nothing I had even remotely seen or noticed while I was studying! Immediately I went into a panic...why had I never seen this information before, was I even in the right exam...then I slowly calmed down and counted to ten, just to try and erase the panic and went through the rest of the paper.
Some stuff was becoming familiar as I went through the paper, so I implemented my contingency plan and instead of starting with the first section (which still had me stumped) I did the sections that I knew, building confidence as I went on. By the time I got back to the first section some of the information was beginning to make sense and I was able to answer some of the questions (not all unfortunately) and in my book, making an attempt and failing is better than failing without making the attempt...the exam is in God's hands now and hopefully I will still pass :)
The steps of achieving a better day, aren't going to ensure you have success, they are about giving you the tools to manage the events of your day. Success comes from the hard work and hard work requires focus, these steps are to help you focus.
So what is step four. It's execution. Execution means that if your day is going good, stick through with your plans and if you have to implement your contingency plan, ensure that you follow through with your actions to match your words.
We have all heard the saying talk is cheap and that actions speak louder than words. That's the execution step in a nutshell. Its all fine and dandy to say that you will go to the store but if you do not get up and go (doing so to the best of your ability) then your positive attitude and thoughts are just worthless things you do to make yourself feel good.
There is never anything you can not do, If the mind can think it the body can do it and if your body cannot do it on its own, there are tools. Example: man wanted to fly, the mind thought it, the body wanted to do it but was unable to on its own, then the mind thought of airplanes and BAM...man was flying.
So get up and say what up, think about your plans for the day, if a crisis comes up don't panic and create you contingency plan and finally execute so that your actions match your words...one more step and you will have an idea of how to achieve a better day.
Here's to positive people!
I went through the material I had studied. Got into the exam, saw the first section and it was nothing I had even remotely seen or noticed while I was studying! Immediately I went into a panic...why had I never seen this information before, was I even in the right exam...then I slowly calmed down and counted to ten, just to try and erase the panic and went through the rest of the paper.
Some stuff was becoming familiar as I went through the paper, so I implemented my contingency plan and instead of starting with the first section (which still had me stumped) I did the sections that I knew, building confidence as I went on. By the time I got back to the first section some of the information was beginning to make sense and I was able to answer some of the questions (not all unfortunately) and in my book, making an attempt and failing is better than failing without making the attempt...the exam is in God's hands now and hopefully I will still pass :)
The steps of achieving a better day, aren't going to ensure you have success, they are about giving you the tools to manage the events of your day. Success comes from the hard work and hard work requires focus, these steps are to help you focus.
So what is step four. It's execution. Execution means that if your day is going good, stick through with your plans and if you have to implement your contingency plan, ensure that you follow through with your actions to match your words.
We have all heard the saying talk is cheap and that actions speak louder than words. That's the execution step in a nutshell. Its all fine and dandy to say that you will go to the store but if you do not get up and go (doing so to the best of your ability) then your positive attitude and thoughts are just worthless things you do to make yourself feel good.
There is never anything you can not do, If the mind can think it the body can do it and if your body cannot do it on its own, there are tools. Example: man wanted to fly, the mind thought it, the body wanted to do it but was unable to on its own, then the mind thought of airplanes and BAM...man was flying.
So get up and say what up, think about your plans for the day, if a crisis comes up don't panic and create you contingency plan and finally execute so that your actions match your words...one more step and you will have an idea of how to achieve a better day.
Here's to positive people!
Saturday 19 March 2011
Managing Your Day
You know the drill by now, GET UP AND SAY WHAT UP!! now start thinking about your day... whew...now's the time to get about with your day's work.
There is so much that is going to happen through out your day, and now that you have a positive outlook and the general idea of how your plan is going to go... how will you manage the unexpected events of the day, like a car stalling when you are in a hurry, or can't find your work projects, or something is suddenly sprung on you are the last minute.
This step, if we were square dancing, would be called a two step because it has...you guess it...two steps.. Step one of step three (stay with me don'g get confused :->) :
DO NOT PANIC Nothing is achieved if you can not think clearly. We have all seen it happen at some point or the other, it even happened to me a few weeks ago...something as as "life altering" as losing files off of your flash drive makes you feel that the earth is in the next apocalypse.
If your first reaction is to ask God why He has forsaken you, then this step is definitely for you. Over reacting is a sign of panic. It will be hard (believe me, I know) but it will be worth it, thoughts will become focused and step two of step three can begin.
THINK OF A CONTINGENCY PLAN If you can keep your panic under wraps, rational and sensible plans will begin to fall into place. So all your work is gone, you now begin to think, did I save it on my pc?...will i find it in the recent tab of the program i was using to create the document, did i ever email it, is it in my sent folder attached to an email??
When you mind is focus, options become apparent. Not panic and creating your contingency plan and/or options, you are still attempting to maintain your positive mentality. YOU are telling the problem What up!? instead of letting the problem turn you around and say don't let the door hit you on the way out...
Doesn't your day already seem a bit more manageable, there are two more steps to come. But first, let's recap the steps:
Step one:Get up and say What up
Step two: Think about your day
Step three a) never panic b) create/think of your contingency options
Hope these things help :->
Here's to positive people!
There is so much that is going to happen through out your day, and now that you have a positive outlook and the general idea of how your plan is going to go... how will you manage the unexpected events of the day, like a car stalling when you are in a hurry, or can't find your work projects, or something is suddenly sprung on you are the last minute.
This step, if we were square dancing, would be called a two step because it has...you guess it...two steps.. Step one of step three (stay with me don'g get confused :->) :
DO NOT PANIC Nothing is achieved if you can not think clearly. We have all seen it happen at some point or the other, it even happened to me a few weeks ago...something as as "life altering" as losing files off of your flash drive makes you feel that the earth is in the next apocalypse.
If your first reaction is to ask God why He has forsaken you, then this step is definitely for you. Over reacting is a sign of panic. It will be hard (believe me, I know) but it will be worth it, thoughts will become focused and step two of step three can begin.
THINK OF A CONTINGENCY PLAN If you can keep your panic under wraps, rational and sensible plans will begin to fall into place. So all your work is gone, you now begin to think, did I save it on my pc?...will i find it in the recent tab of the program i was using to create the document, did i ever email it, is it in my sent folder attached to an email??
When you mind is focus, options become apparent. Not panic and creating your contingency plan and/or options, you are still attempting to maintain your positive mentality. YOU are telling the problem What up!? instead of letting the problem turn you around and say don't let the door hit you on the way out...
Doesn't your day already seem a bit more manageable, there are two more steps to come. But first, let's recap the steps:
Step one:Get up and say What up
Step two: Think about your day
Step three a) never panic b) create/think of your contingency options
Hope these things help :->
Here's to positive people!
Get up, What up...and What next???
Hi and Chello my good people, if you haven't done it yet...GET UP AND SAY WHAT UP!!! lol ok you can sit down again.
Greetings from the land of the hectic, where the universe is full of surprising twist and turns. If you are a student, a business person (need to stay gender neutral :>) or a bum, you know life can become overwhelming.
As a student, you may think you are on top of the work and them suddenly there's as assignment popping up out of thin air, as a business person a crisis might break out, a client might decide to screw you over or customers having a bad day take it out on you, when you are just doing your job...as a bum...it mite rain?...
Well what ever it is, and you think the "get up and say what up" method was just a get up and feel the world bite you in the butt method, well duh, did you really think that was all you had to do??
You've done the most important step, as I see it: you got or started to get positive attitude towards your day.
So what comes next?
Organize your day.
For many of us out there who may be organized when they have to be ( like me) or not organized at all, this might actually cause many of us to stop reading this blog now. It doesn't really mean you have to keep a pen and paper set by your bedside or a planner or a diary, not that it wouldn't help, if you are into that sort of thing, then by all means go ahead.
If you are like me, however, that might become tedious. What I do is think about my day. It's as simple as that.
In case you haven't noticed it, from as early as nursery school, a routine lifestyle is instill in humans. They get up, bathe at some point during the day, eat, go to school or work, engage in some sort of interaction with friends, significant other or family and then go back to bed to begin the cycle again the next day.
Think about it, your basic day has two or more of these aspects (duh, hopefully you bathe and eat) and it only gets interesting when you get unexpected plans or a crisis breaks out. Now, some plans may excite you, like an invitation to dinner or an unexpected trip with people you like, however a small percentage might do the opposite and really bring down your day.
By organizing your day, you leave space for the unexpected events of life. When one has a plan it's easier to deviate from it AND find your way back, than to have no clue of what you originally had to do and be floundering around in the dark all day.
Have you ever heard the saying, "come to the light?" Well getting up and thinking about your day (or writing it down) is your light, when the unexpected happens, and things in your world become dim, you will have your light at the end of the tunnel to guide you through it.
Step 1: Get up and Say What up!
Step 2: Organize your day
When the hectic aspects of life steps in and you feel pressured (which may still happen) the next post may help you with that. Until next time just see if those two steps make even a minor difference in how your day is executed.
Here's to positive people!
Greetings from the land of the hectic, where the universe is full of surprising twist and turns. If you are a student, a business person (need to stay gender neutral :>) or a bum, you know life can become overwhelming.
As a student, you may think you are on top of the work and them suddenly there's as assignment popping up out of thin air, as a business person a crisis might break out, a client might decide to screw you over or customers having a bad day take it out on you, when you are just doing your job...as a bum...it mite rain?...
Well what ever it is, and you think the "get up and say what up" method was just a get up and feel the world bite you in the butt method, well duh, did you really think that was all you had to do??
You've done the most important step, as I see it: you got or started to get positive attitude towards your day.
So what comes next?
Organize your day.
For many of us out there who may be organized when they have to be ( like me) or not organized at all, this might actually cause many of us to stop reading this blog now. It doesn't really mean you have to keep a pen and paper set by your bedside or a planner or a diary, not that it wouldn't help, if you are into that sort of thing, then by all means go ahead.
If you are like me, however, that might become tedious. What I do is think about my day. It's as simple as that.
In case you haven't noticed it, from as early as nursery school, a routine lifestyle is instill in humans. They get up, bathe at some point during the day, eat, go to school or work, engage in some sort of interaction with friends, significant other or family and then go back to bed to begin the cycle again the next day.
Think about it, your basic day has two or more of these aspects (duh, hopefully you bathe and eat) and it only gets interesting when you get unexpected plans or a crisis breaks out. Now, some plans may excite you, like an invitation to dinner or an unexpected trip with people you like, however a small percentage might do the opposite and really bring down your day.
By organizing your day, you leave space for the unexpected events of life. When one has a plan it's easier to deviate from it AND find your way back, than to have no clue of what you originally had to do and be floundering around in the dark all day.
Have you ever heard the saying, "come to the light?" Well getting up and thinking about your day (or writing it down) is your light, when the unexpected happens, and things in your world become dim, you will have your light at the end of the tunnel to guide you through it.
Step 1: Get up and Say What up!
Step 2: Organize your day
When the hectic aspects of life steps in and you feel pressured (which may still happen) the next post may help you with that. Until next time just see if those two steps make even a minor difference in how your day is executed.
Here's to positive people!
Friday 18 March 2011
Get up and say What Up!
People of the world!! What up! I was inspired, captured, filled with wonder, by the world of blogging...isn't it really just a virtual diary...but with public access. So what if it is, some people place some very interesting post, and it's always nice to hear what people have to say...but what about YOU! DO you have a say??
This blog is just about you relaxing, finding yourself and living life to your best. I do not have a PHD and the university i'm getting this information from is called life, its's all something i have tried that worked out for me so i'm hoping it can do the same.
So... get up and say what up! I know people are thinking what does this silly girl mean, who should i say it to, what's the point, and if i get up and say what up what difference does it make...
Well, it's been said in so many ways before, if you haven't heard about karma, or the saying, " what goes around comes around" then congratulations...you really haven't been out of your house, met anyone or owned any technological gadget like a tv or radio since you first drew a breath...
The get up and say what up principle encompasses those things... if you wake up positive you and give off a positive vibe, the universe will reward you with the same.
Making sense yet? Thought not, maybe because you are wondering, what about the haters, the traffic, bills and such things of the like...
Do this with me...just laugh..HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...and say... CAN'T STUDY OTHERS UNTIL I FIX MYSELF!!
Does't mean you are to drive the road like you are the only one, or because someone at work or school doesn't like you, you can't work with them..the suggestive solutions are coming, for right now just try the Get Up and say What UP and you are saying it out loud to the universe, see if that one change makes any difference.
Here's to positive thinking people!
This blog is just about you relaxing, finding yourself and living life to your best. I do not have a PHD and the university i'm getting this information from is called life, its's all something i have tried that worked out for me so i'm hoping it can do the same.
So... get up and say what up! I know people are thinking what does this silly girl mean, who should i say it to, what's the point, and if i get up and say what up what difference does it make...
Well, it's been said in so many ways before, if you haven't heard about karma, or the saying, " what goes around comes around" then congratulations...you really haven't been out of your house, met anyone or owned any technological gadget like a tv or radio since you first drew a breath...
The get up and say what up principle encompasses those things... if you wake up positive you and give off a positive vibe, the universe will reward you with the same.
Making sense yet? Thought not, maybe because you are wondering, what about the haters, the traffic, bills and such things of the like...
Do this with me...just laugh..HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...and say... CAN'T STUDY OTHERS UNTIL I FIX MYSELF!!
Does't mean you are to drive the road like you are the only one, or because someone at work or school doesn't like you, you can't work with them..the suggestive solutions are coming, for right now just try the Get Up and say What UP and you are saying it out loud to the universe, see if that one change makes any difference.
Here's to positive thinking people!
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